Acceptence and expectations are partners, not opposites. We want to accept our children exactly as they are, their nervous systems, their learning pace, their struggles. At the same time we can scaffold and support growth, effort and independence when they are not in crisis.
— Sarah Collins (Home School OT)
The message should not be that the neurodivergent community are lacking or less than, but that we are different and equally worthy. When we’re not forced to try and fit into a framework and societal structure that was built for people who aren’t like us, we can be pretty impressive.
— Em Rusciano
Different day, different capacity—same worth. Fluctuating capacity means effort and ability rise and fall with nervous system load, not motivation or character. When we plan for fluctuating capacity, we create systems that support humans rather than punish them.
— Neurowild
Kids do well if they can. Children want to succeed. When they struggle, it’s not a lack of motivation—it’s a lack of support and skills. If a child could meet expectations, they would. When they can’t, it’s our job to figure out what’s getting in the way.
— Dr. Ross Greene
Mental health support isn’t about fixing people—it’s about helping them feel safe enough to be themselves. Healing and capacity develop when children are met with curiosity instead of judgment. True mental health care is relational, compassionate, and grounded in understanding—not compliance or control.
— Dr. Billy Garvey
